There is no easy way to say what has transpired the last few days, but I feel I should let you know what’s going on.
Two nights ago my father shot and killed my mother, then himself. (link, link, link)
My family and I are beyond grief, beyond shocked, beyond broken. We are together and taking it one minute at a time. We have received wonderful support from our friends and church homes and that has helped to give us strength. We are mostly numb; mostly in shock; and overwhelmed at the task ahead of us the next few weeks.
Prayers are coveted, I will try to keep you updated as I can.
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March 5, 2009 at 7:24 pm
Prester Scott
Oh. No. That’s awful. I’m so sorry.
Do you have any idea why?
March 5, 2009 at 7:50 pm
jennetcetera
Not really. There were no signs of a struggle. They’d both been drinking that night – I had talked to them on text messages and nothing had seemed out of the ordinary. But we just lost my brother Daryl (less than a month ago) and that hit my Dad hard. He’s been depressed off and on for years, and was an alcoholic. Apparently he had been on some medication for being sick… I don’t know what or how much, but it might have mixed badly with the alcohol he’d been drinking.
They just – you know – they were both broken people. We had tried to reach out to them, tried to tell them they needed to stop what they were doing. We pleaded with them over and over to quit drinking, to working so many stressful hours, to re-prioritize, to re-think their lives. But we couldn’t force them to change. It’s heart-breaking and gut-wrenching and I don’t think we’ll ever really know why.
March 5, 2009 at 7:54 pm
Prester Scott
We pleaded with them … but we couldn’t force them to change.
I do know what that is like.
Take care of yourselves.
March 5, 2009 at 8:46 pm
Jen
*hugs* Nothing I can say will lessen the pain. You are in my thoughts.
March 5, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Dan Ray
I cannot begin to imagine what you’re going through, but you have my deepest sympathies.
March 5, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Theresa
Jennet… I wish so much that I could be there in person for you. I cant imagine what you are going through… its gotta be tougher than the toughest thing out there. Youve got people all over california praying for you guys. I just want to encourage you to remember that youre not alone.. that God is right there walking ….even carrying each of you through this. If you need someone to talk to.. or whatever… im just a phone call away. I love you Netters. Has anyone talked to Jean and the rest of the girls?
March 5, 2009 at 10:32 pm
jennetcetera
Yeah I’ve been digging on Robbie Seay Band’s song “Song of Hope.” Especially the part I bolded, here are the lyrics:
All things bright and beautiful, You are
All things wise and wonderful, You are
In my darkest night You brighten up the skies
A song will rise
Chorus:
I will sing a song of hope, sing along
God of heaven come down, heaven come down
Just to know that You are near is enough God of heaven come down, heaven come down
All things new, I can start again
Creator, God calling me Your friend
Sing praise my soul to the Maker of the skies
A song will rise
March 6, 2009 at 9:56 am
Theresa
thats an awesome song right there girl! Keep holding on to that… I LOVE YOU more than reeces peices
Give your brother a hug for me k?!
March 5, 2009 at 11:49 pm
Maria
I must have read your entry 5-10 times and the words still make no sense in my head. Oh, Jennet, I’m beyond words sorry! I’ll be keeping you and your entire family in my prayers.
I hate that you have to go through this. *hugs*
March 6, 2009 at 11:29 am
John J. O'Sullivan
I just saw this article after I noticed the funeral announcement…I’m so sorry. I don’t know what to say, save you and your family are in my prayers.
Rest Eternal grant unto them O Lord, and may Light Perpetual shine upon them.
May they rest in Peace….
=(
-j
March 9, 2009 at 10:41 am
robbie
jennet,
i am deeply sorry for your loss.
i have no words except i’m praying for God’s peace in the middle of this crazy storm.
thanks for your note.
it means so much that our music is with you and others through life’s valleys and mountaintops.
with love,
robbie seay
March 12, 2009 at 8:47 pm
Hyacinth Kwatashin
Janet,
I;m Hya, Marcus’ mother. I am so sorry. May the Lord surround you with His peace which passes all understanding.
Be blessed and know that we care.
Hyacinth Kwatashin
myredeemerlives2@hotmail.com
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